The 10 Commandments for HSPs in Relationships
Relationships are difficult. For everyone. Period. End of story. No matter personality type, life story, likes or dislikes, relationships take hard work, love, and grace. However, it should go without saying that all three things must first be focused inward before they can be focused outward. As a highly sensitive person (HSP), you may find that relationships are even more difficult. They do not need to be, though. HSPs have a lot to contribute to a strong and healthy relationship.
- Love Thy Self
You can’t give what you don’t have. Learning to love yourself is a journey, one that you will benefit from in the end. If you love yourself, you will respect yourself, and you will never need to depend on anyone for that love and respect. This will empower you to walk away from less than stellar relationships.
- Know Thy Self
Once you know what you need out of life in general and in the day-to-day, you will better be able to find someone who meets those needs. HSPs regularly overlook their own needs, but your needs are just as important as your partners. Make sure you know how to meet your own needs first.
- Accept Thy Self
You are who you are. If you not only love yourself but also like yourself, then it won’t matter what others think. This is an inclusive statement, meaning you must love and accept all parts of yourself: physical, mental, emotional, and every other aspect of your being. Accept yourself and only allow in others who are willing to accept you as you are.
- Thy Shall Take Responsibility
Taking responsibility for yourself is not a selfish act. If you can complete the three previous commandments, you can then seek to do those for someone else.
- Set Thy Boundaries
You can set boundaries in all relationships—parent/child, friendships, co-workers, and romantic relationships. Setting boundaries is a healthy practice that will not only protect you but allow others to know where you stand. This includes telling someone what you will not allow and what you need as well. If the person loves you, they will respect all your boundaries.
- Thy Shall Not Rescue
You are not responsible for the feelings of others unless you said something hurtful. Rescuing can include many areas of life: it is not your responsibility to immediately take on the domestic cleaning for someone you have just entered a relationship with. It is also not your responsibility to take on the emotional strains of someone else, especially if they are not willing to take on yours. This is a boundary you will need to set early on.
- Thy Shall Avoid Leeches
Someone who needs to be rescued on the regular may be a leech. If someone is asking too much of you, then you need to reevaluate the relationship. You both should be free to be yourselves, be happy, and be able to stand on your own two feet, metaphorically speaking.
- Thy Shall Not be a Nag
If you’re in a relationship with someone, and they simply do not understand you, leave it. You can lead a horse to water, but you cannot make it drink.
- Fight for Thy Self
HSPs regularly avoid conflict and prefer to smooth over uncomfortable situations. Don’t do this. You need to stand your ground: love yourself, know what you want, set boundaries, and stand up for your needs.
- Heal Thy Self
If you have just ended an unhealthy relationship of any type, take time to heal from that. Every failed relationship is a learning experience if we take the time to be self-aware and inspect the relationship. Take the time you need.
HSPs are strong and resilient people. You have much to offer in all your relationships. However, you also need to make sure you are also benefiting from all your relationships as well as giving benefits.
Introvert Survival Guide
Many of us are surprised to find later in life that we are introverts. This is particularly confusing for those who are outgoing and socially skilled.
How did we miss this all our lives? Aren’t introverts the shy, socially awkward people who dislike going out or being among other people?
The introvert revolution has shined a light on a lot of misinformation and lack of information about us. However, the stereotypes of introverts as wallflowers, computer geeks whose only interactions are online, and crazy cat ladies still abound.
For one, not all introverts are shy. Some of us are, but not all. And we don’t all choose to spend time with our cats instead of people, though some do.
This package helps introverts understand who they are an and how to survive in a hectic world?
Highly Sensitive People
HSP: Three letters, infinite meanings. If you’ve heard someone refer to themselves as an HSP, they consider themselves a Highly Sensitive Person.
In all walks of life, you’ll come in contact with HSPs. It is not a disease or a disability. It is not an impairment or dysfunction. It is not something that will change the course of someone’s life. It’s something you should understand because you’ll interact with HSPs throughout your life. But it is not something to fear or look down upon. In reality, we’re all sensitive in some way or another–some people are simply more sensitive than others.
A Highly Sensitive Person is someone who feels and experiences the world on a deeper level than most people. This kind of person is someone who may hear sounds louder, feel sad easily, or empathize more than most people. The typical HSP isn’t easy to define because it’s person-dependent, but we’ll go through the basics of the life of someone who is highly sensitive. We’ll also cover key characteristics of highly sensitive people, many issues they face in life, and finally, tips to help HSPs thrive in today’s busy, noisy world.
You may be wondering why it’s important and why it’s worthy of an eBook. Highly sensitive people are part of the world, and chances are, they’re part of your world. That’s right – you probably know at least one or two highly sensitive people. Who knows? You could be a Highly Sensitive Person without even realizing it.
A lot of people shrink back when they hear the word “sensitive” because of the stigma typically attached to it. We think of someone who cries and whines a lot – someone who is hard to talk to without offending.
This package will disrupt that stereotype and teach you a little bit more about what it really means to be a highly sensitive person. Being highly sensitive is not a bad thing at all. It’s part of what makes us all unique. Before we get into the details, it’s important you should have an idea of exactly what we’re talking about when we say, “Highly Sensitive Person,” so let’s get started.
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